by Nedra Glover Tawwab · 2021
Practical, therapy-informed guide to boundary-setting in relationships, family, and work.
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Tawwab is a licensed therapist whose framework on boundaries became culturally ubiquitous for a reason: she makes a complex psychological skill genuinely teachable. The book identifies the patterns that prevent boundary-setting (people-pleasing, fear of conflict, guilt) and walks through specific scripts for the most common situations.
It's particularly useful for clients raised in families where boundaries weren't modelled, where saying no felt dangerous, or where care and self-erasure got conflated. Tawwab is matter-of-fact rather than performative about the work — and clear that boundaries are something you build inside yourself, not something you announce to other people.
A common recommendation alongside individual therapy work on family-of-origin patterns.
A note. This is reading material, not clinical treatment. If you’re working through something difficult, books complement therapy — they don’t replace it. Book a session with our team for personalised support.
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